I hope you found yesterday’s post regarding Values and Visualization to be helpful. If you just joined this journey, be sure to take the time to go back and read from the beginning. Without delay, let’s get to it and discuss the letter “W”.
Willingness, Worthiness, Waiting
Does it make sense that you need to be willing to try something different in order to feel happy in your life? Of course it does. Tens of thousands of times in your life so far, you have willingly made choices to step outside of your comfort zone and try something new. This could be a new food item, new clothing style, new lifestyle, brand new career, and so many other options in your life.
What does willingness mean? It is being “inclined or favorably disposed in mind, prompt to act or respond, done, borne, or accepted by choice or without reluctance, of or relating to the will or power of choosing.”
Willingness is ACTION!
Willingness doesn’t mean you like, want, desire, or approve of something. Willingness means you’ll allow it, make room for it, or let it be in order to do something that you value. Willingness has no shades of gray. You are either willing or not. You’re either doing something or not. You’re answer is either yes or no. There is nothing in-between.
When you’re thinking about your values and what direction you want to take in your life, you must have willingness to stretch towards your valued living goal. Nothing changes unless you are willing to change.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. -Lao Tzu
Throughout your life, you are going to experience stressful situations, which in turn are likely to lead to painful and uncomfortable feelings. Think about your personal goals that will lead you toward your statements expressed in the valued living questionnaire. If you are willing to face and conquer the difficulties and uncomfortable feelings, you will be able to create a happier and more meaningful life.
How many times have you looked in the mirror and said to yourself, “I am worthy. I have worthiness?” Not many? Me neither. This isn’t something most of us are accustomed to doing. In fact, society implies that to do so is to be egocentric. Well, society is wrong!
You are Perfect!
There is no one else like you, not even if you have a twin. You are uniquely you. Therefore, you don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. In addition, you don’t need to listen to anyone else in your life as to their personal opinion of your value. It is their opinion and not fact. You are perfect just the way you are!
Your sheer existence makes you worthy and deserving – plain and simple! It doesn’t matter what you look like, your socioeconomic status, your job, your choices in life, or anything else. The fact that you are a living, breathing being entitles you to all the best the experience of being human has to offer.
When you start changing your view of yourself, you will experience all sorts of wonderful things that will lead you down that path to happiness. When this truth really begins to sink in, there will be no more questioning of whether you are worthy. I know this is easier said than done. But what do you have to lose? Nothing! Take hold of your inherent worthiness and get out there to a happier you.
The first thing that come to mind when I consider waiting is the doctor’s office. How many times have you gone to a doctor’s appointment and had to wait a long time? Lots of times, I bet! You arrive early, you present all of the necessary paperwork, and then you wait and wait and wait. It seems as though everyone that has arrived after you is called back before you. You feel yourself starting to lose your patience. You begin to fidget, squirm, fuss, and generally begin to feel great tension.
You know you have to wait your turn. You know the staff is going as fast as they can to get you seen. You know that others are feeling the same way as yourself. Does this help any? Not usually. And so your only choice is to keep waiting. Wouldn’t it be easier if you reacted differently?
Learn How to Wait!
When you are setting goals, trying new coping skills, and figuring out how to best experience more happiness in your life, you need to wait on yourself. Be patient with yourself and your situation. It takes time and practice to learn how to do things differently in your life.
Stop reacting to your goals and actions like you did in the doctor’s office. Do what you need to do to be happy. Treat yourself with kindness and love. Be patient and understanding. Go forth on your journey taking one step at a time. Waiting is but one part of changing and changing is the way to a more meaningful life.
As we continue this journey together, I encourage you to keep reading. If you have yet to find your own how or why to happiness, I strongly believe you will. Please come back tomorrow as we explore the letter “X”.
Copyright © Julie Corbett 2017